A friend describes his home at the foot of San Diego Bay, where all of the houses have docks. The speed limit in the bay is five knots. Once in a while, some cowboy rips through the area and rocks all of the boats, knocking them up against the docks. The person might not have done this on purpose. However, if a boater causes damage, he is responsible for it. Yes, the other boats should have bumpers, the right-sized bumpers; still, each boater is required to take responsibility for his own wake. The question is not whether he can boat in those waters. Of course he can. The question is at what speed. One of the principles of fierce conversations is: Take responsibility for your